Nathan and I are just a short few weeks shy of our 2nd Wedding Anniversary! I can’t believe it’s been 2 years already! I had such a great time planning our wedding, I thought I’d share a few tips on finding the right aesthetic or theme for your wedding. When it comes to planning a wedding, like anything, a nice aesthetic should be one of the main things you consider. Of course, even if you show up to your wedding in your regular clothes, without a big ceremony, or without the bells and whistles, you’ll find that none of this actually matters! The connection between you, your partner, and your family celebrating love is the most important thing. So have fun planning, don’t take it too seriously and stress yourself out. Enjoy the process!
I’m sure you have visions of designing your dream wedding, to enjoy a wonderful ceremony and keep in touch of how everything will go. It’s one of the most important and special days of your life, so curating it a little can ensure it will be a worthwhile and loving event. But how do you find the right aesthetic for your wedding day? Where on earth do you even begin to find inspiration for it? Is there a common theme, or a couple of simple tricks you can follow? Where do you go from here?
Here are a few tips that can help!
Consider What You’d Like To Represent
What kind of theme are you going for or what would you like to represent? Traditional, black-tie formal, tropical, glam, farm, etc. Would you like to perhaps wear a suit/dress alongside your partner due to your same-sex marriage? Would you’d like to go for a nautical theme because you come from a long line of sailors? Maybe you and your partner are artists and wish to go for something just a little artsier and bohemian or maybe you guys want to keep it simple and chic!
Take into account your venue when choosing your aesthetic if you’ve already booked it. If not, Pinterest will become your best friend! I knew that I wanted to do an Art deco theme for our wedding, but since our venue was very outdoorsy farm like, I decided to combine them and create a Rustic Art Deco theme.
It’s all up to you guys, but whatever you hope to go for, consider designing it ahead of time. I made the mistake of trying to plan a wedding in the final 4-6 months and was exhausted by the time the big day came! Breaking convention without any good purpose or thoroughly planning things out can often just lead you into bad taste. And so while tradition is not always the default you may want to follow, it can serve as a nice base to help guide your unsure and disparate ideas right now. Remember, planning a wedding is a learning process. You don’t need to have absolutely everything you know you would like to achieve within the first week of planning. This is what this process is for, and why (hopefully) you have a good amount of time between accepting the engagement and your big day.
Connecting To Your Roots
Perhaps you’d like to connect to your roots and give all of yourself through that process. To some, it’s extremely important to include their culture and their traditional values in their wedding. If that sounds like you, it’s important to know what those roots might symbolize. Would you prefer to have a truly Jewish wedding adhering to all of the customs? How about a wedding ceremony from another culture, dressed in the attire that your ancestors once wore? Of course, it’s pretty much an unspoken rule that you or your partner need to share some connection to the culture you wish to represent when connecting to their roots.
In my culture, it is common for Nigerian-Americans to have two wedding ceremonies, a traditional Nigerian wedding, and a more Americanized wedding. However, weddings are really expensive and we paid for the wedding ourselves, so we ended up combining them and did an outfit change halfway through. It was very important to me to tie my culture into my wedding some way and loved that my husband was able to embrace my culture as well!
It’s More Than Just The Clothes
A wedding aesthetic isn’t just what you wear or how nicely you decorate the functional hall. It’s a whole vibe! It’s also how you craft beautiful DIY wedding invites, the cake/dessert, the small details, and the experience itself you are trying to create! It’s in the music you select for your wedding entertainment, the seating plan you design for your wedding meal, what you choose for your first song to dance to, and even the shower events leading up to the wedding.
It’s also in what honeymoon you may wish to select, or what approach you wish to take to receiving wedding gifts in the first place from your attendees. All of this is much more than just clothes. It’s how you craft the entire experience to your tastes and the tastes of your partner to help celebrate the coming together of two people. In that frame of mind, these efforts are truly beautiful and not a small amount of wholesome.
Overall, just make sure you have fun! Planning a wedding will only become stressful if you let it. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you can, plus it’s more fun to do with others. I don’t know what I would have done without my all-star bridal party’s help! Keep a journal or planner handy to keep your ideas, inspiration, and notes in. And like I said earlier, Pinterest will be your best friend. It’s super helpful for creating a mood board and keeping all of your inspo organized to create the perfect wedding aesthetic. If you’re stuck on finding a dress, check out this post here. And don’t forget to plan your beauty routine! Hope that this advice can help you find the best result possible! What aesthetic have you chosen for your wedding? Any cultural traditions you’re adding to the ceremony? Let me know in the comments below!